Keep in mind that everyone’s perspective is their personal truth. It is the world as seen through their eyes. As such, everyone’s perspective is valid and, at its core, is indisputable.
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Your children will be able to cope with your separation. What they can not cope with is ongoing hostility between the two people they love the most. From Jane Henderson, Q.C.
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Keep an open mind. While you may have an idea of what you would like for an outcome to your mediation, if you are open to discussion and some compromise there is a greater likelihood that a resolution can be achieved.
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“The best way to persuade people is with your ears – by listening to them.”
A Dean Rusk quote from Carole McKnight
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In order for the mediation to be effective, both your spouse and the mediator need to know what’s really important to you. You need to be thinking about where you want to be 2 years from now, financially and otherwise, and how you see that being achieved with the resources … more »
Before entering into a mediation using videoconferencing technology, ask your distance mediator for helpful technology tips. At a minimum, always check your headset and computer to ensure everything is in working order.
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Be in the present. If you are mired in past emotional hurts or the wrongdoings of someone else, acknowledge this and seek a therapeutic setting to communicate what you need or want from him/her, so you can move past your emotional pain. This will help ensure that your emotions are … more »
Have a positive attitude. Your attitude is essential to the outcome. You have a much better chance of getting an agreement if you approach the meeting as an opportunity to learn and to achieve a win-win outcome. Today’s tip from Carole McKnight
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When thinking of solutions to resolve an issue, try to be creative and think “outside the box”. Doing this can lead to opportunities and possibilities that have not yet been explored.
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Remember, the mediator is not your legal advisor. It’s very important that you come to the mediation knowing fully what your assets and liabilities are, so you will be ready for the mediation. That information can only come from you independently obtaining legal advice prior to the mediation. From the … more »